Sunday 24 February 2013

Practicing Muslim men and women are Struggling to Get Married



    The best greeting I can start with is the greeting of Islam, and the greeting of Islam is peace.

So, peace and mercy be upon you.
A’udhu Billaahi minash shaytánir rajeem.
Bismillah ar-Rahman ar-Rahim, Al hamdu lillaahi Rabbil 'Aalameen. Was salatu was Salamu alá Ashraf IL mursaleen.
Sayyidina WA Nabi’na wamoulanaa Muhammadin wa’ alá aalihee WA Sahbihee wasallam.         

  
Practicing Muslim men and women are struggling to find suitable partners in U.K.
     Why Practicing Muslim men and women are are having a hard time finding someone to spend the rest of their life with.
The Big question is why?
Marriage is very important for Muslims, and Muslims are generally very family oriented.
This ideal can be traced in the Hadith, “Marriage is half of religion.”
The traditional structure for finding a partner is falling apart as it is no longer accepted by younger Muslims.
However, this structure has not been replaced by something else,
And now many young educated European Muslims find themselves in a situation where they cannot get married at all.
Different reasons seem to be holding each one back respectively, but the end result of sadness and confusion is usually the same?
So many family's and friends are looking and looking but cannot find anyone.
For many Muslims, the process of finding a spouse can sometimes prove challenging and frustrating.
 During this time not only do brothers and sisters have to wrestle with their own personal quirks,
But they also have expectations about the potential mates they are considering.
.Finding a spouse is difficult for educated career-focused Muslim men and women who may not have
Had many contacts with other Muslims but now is a difficulty for most in the UK as many men are looking to find wives overseas.Why?

Main problem...
The main problem is the lack of service in the Masjid regarding marriage.
A simple idea would be to have a box where people looking to get married can post their contact details
And a description about themselves along with brief details on what sort of spouse they are looking for/want to avoid.
Filling out a guided form may even be a better idea.
There is a problem with the system - there are no links in the community,
The Masjid doesn’t have any services set up and if they do there aren't enough efforts being exerted.
Most secure way to find someone to marry was to consult friends in a sort of personal networking,
A method considered acceptable for women as well.
 In this networking, other married couples play a key role, as they could transmit information across gender barriers, so to speak.
This kind of networking also worked in Islamic organizations.
What the Mosque should offer:
The mosque should provide an introduction service for Muslims of all ages and ethnic backgrounds.
Clients should be able to find their ideal partner via the mosque's Marriage Bureau.
 Volunteers using a database of registered prospective partners and initiated meetings.
The mosque should also provide marriage registration services cementing partnerships according to Islamic and civil matrimony.
The mosque should be linked with the Registrar of marriages for conducting legally recognized civil Muslim marriages and issues certificates on behalf of the Registrar.
Mosque should have a Muslim Marriage Events Day
 Mosque should also arrange Muslim Marriage Events, at least one in a month.
These events can be to be very effective and quick way of finding suitable marriage partners.
  i.e . . . . Individuals normally come with their family members or "Mehrams" and have one to one meeting with the prospects.
Additionally, university Islamic societies could also organize matchmaking in this way
Or set up a forum on their website which is moderated.
Each person could be identified, for security purposes, by their student ID card number
And they could look through profiles of those available for marriage.
Men as well as Women are sitting around waiting on parents or not knowing where to go.
If the ones who are married already could help would be nice but everyone's busy.
There are definitely a lot of good people out there,
Just got to find a system that will help people connect and spread info about those who are searching.

There are many different ways of finding a spouse.
 Many people prefer to go through the recommendations of family members.
However, if your family is unable to help in this process, then you are perfectly entitled to take your own initiative.
1. Ask your married friends if their husbands know of any single brothers.
Make sure you let your friends know what you are looking for in a spouse.
2. It is also fine to meet someone through school or work
Or a community gathers as long as the parameters of modest behavior are observed.
 If you meet someone you would like to discuss marriage with, just arrange for the brother to meet your Wali or family.
3. There are several online matrimonial sites where you can look for potential suitors.
I can't vouch for each and every website.
A note of caution about online matrimonial: The nature of cyberspace lends itself to anonymity.
 It's very easy for people to misrepresent themselves online.
Trust your instincts. If you feel that something's not right with someone,
Then don't pursue discussions with them.
Never give out your personal information.
Once you feel that someone has potential, get that person in touch with your Wali or family.
Make sure that your Wali or family thoroughly checks this person out before you proceed with the first meeting.
And always insist that the potential suitor provide references.
This advice applies to whoever you meet, whether it's through a website or at school or work or anything else.

As to methods of communication, this depends on what you feel comfortable with.
If you find someone through an online matrimonial, I believe that initial communication will proceed via email.
You may want to correspond with the person through email before you decide to meet.
Once you feel like this person really has potential,
 Then it's important to arrange a face-to-face meeting in the presence of your Wali or family members.
It is entirely up to you how often and for how long you meet.
A short meeting where everyone introduces themselves
And establishes common ground may be better than a long meeting at first.
If you both decide that you'd like to meet again, then you can have longer meetings to discuss issues of importance.

           Once again, it's important to consider two things:
1. Always meet in the presence of your Wali or family members.
This is for your protection. Your father is your natural Wali, or guardian.
If he doesn't want to take this role, then I would suggest your grandfather, brother, or uncle.
If none are available, then it is imperative that you ask a pious, mature brother from the community to act as your Wali.
Once you find a potential suitor, make sure to direct him to your Wali.

2. If you correspond via email or talk on the phone, make sure that your conversations are reflective of Islamic propriety.
Once you feel attracted to each other and are quite sure you want to marry,
 Then I would suggest that you cut down emailing and phone conversations.
This is better for both of you in terms of Adab.
At this point, it is better to have serious meetings in the presence of your chaperone to hash out the final details of the wedding.

Also we should remind ourselves whilst searching
And making efforts that Allah will reward those who seek the good for His pleasure Insh’Allah.
Sabr, Du'a and Tawakkul in Allah; Insh’Allah a way will be created in finding the right one.
             As per our knowledge, there is no specific verse or chapter that brings someone love.
But, it is proved in Sunnah that increased supererogatory acts such as prayers, fasting,
And making Hajj and Umra, bring the love of Allah, His angels and other people.
 Imam al-Bukhari narrated from Abu Hurairah that the Holy Prophet Muhammad (Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) said:
"My slave keeps on coming closer to Me through performing Nafal (praying or doing extra deeds besides what is obligatory) till I love him.
When I love him I become his sense of hearing with which he hears,
And his sense of sight with which he sees,
And his hand with which he grips, and his leg with which he walks;
And if he asks Me, I will give him, and if he asks My protection (Refuge), I will protect him; (i.e. give him My Refuge) ".
It is also narrated in a narration from Abu Hurairah that the Holy Prophet Muhammad (Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) said:
"If Allah loves a person, He calls Gabriel saying: 'Allah loves so and so; O Gabriel, love him'. Gabriel would love him,
And then Gabriel would make an announcement among the residents of the Heaven, 'Allah loves so and so,
 Therefore, you should love him also'. So, all the residents of the Heavens would love him
And then he is granted the pleasure of the people of the earth".
Every believing woman's wish is to have a good husband.
So asking for such a husband is not prohibited.
It is a kind of blessing; thus a woman can ask for it. Allah mentioned the Du'a of pious people in Qur'an saying:
"And those who say: "Our Lord! Bestow on us from our wives and our offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes,
And make us leaders for the Muttaqoon""[25:74].
Therefore, if a woman wants a good husband, she has to seek him through legal ways in Shariah.
The first place of those ways is seeking refuge with Allah, supplicating Him.
Allah Says (interpretation of meaning): {I respond to the invocations of the supplicant
When he calls on Me (without any mediator or intercessor).}[2:186].
He also Says: {and your Lord said: "Invoke Me, [i.e. believe in My Oneness (Islamic Monotheism)] (and ask Me for anything) I will respond to your (invocation).}[40:60].
Supplicating Allah to gain goodness was the practice of Prophets and Messengers.
Prophet Zakariyah (Alayhi Salaam) was an old man and desired to have a child, so he asked Allah supplicating:
"…since my wife is barren. So give me from yourself an heir, "[19:5].
Prophet Younus (Alayhi Salaam) did the same when a big fish swallowed him, he said:
"Laa ilaha illa Anta [none has the right to be worshipped but You (O Allah)], Glorified (and Exalted) are You [above all that (evil) they associate with You]. Truly, I have been of the wrong-doers."[21:87].
So, you have to do likewise; make Du'a and ask help from Allah.
Then ask the pious you know to help you search for a good husband.
Surely you will get what you desire, Insha Allah.
Allah Says (interpretation of meaning): {…And whosoever fears Allah and keeps his duty to Him,
He will make a way for him to get out (from every difficulty). And He will provide him from (sources) he never could imagine. … [Qur’an:  [65:2, 3].
Know that blessing of Allah can not be obtained except through His obedience.

I don't think this problem will ever come to an end until and unless
 We come back to the teachings of our Master the Holy Prophet Muhammad (Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam)
 He commanded the men to look for pious girl.
The Holy Prophet Muhammad (Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) said: "A woman may be married for four reasons:
Her wealth, her lineage (family status), her beauty or her religious commitment; Choose the one who is religious and you will prosper.”
{Sahih Bukhari, Book 62, Hadith Number 27
Her wealth is Iman and Modesty.
Her Linage is Islam
Her Beauty is obedient and loyalty
Her religion is Qur’an and Hadith.

So it is high time, the community takes up this issue.
Pro-active role is needed from parents, Mosque, activists and intellectuals to tackle the issue.
If a conscious effort is made, this issue can be solved.

The Benefactor and Ya Allah, I ask of you (or I seek refuge with You),
By Your Beautiful Names and Your Magnificent/Great Attributes! Ya Allah,
 Originator of the heavens and the earth,
The ever living, the Self-subsisting
 Lord of Majesty, Bounty and Honor, Look towards us! Look towards us!
Look towards us! Through Your Mercy,
The Most Merciful of the Merciful. Ya Rab of the Worlds.
“Ya Allah, I invoke You with all of Your beautiful Names.
May Allah Subhanahu WA Ta’aala bless us and keep us steadfast in the path of Righteousness.
Ya Allah, nothing is easy except what you've made easy,
 If you wish you can make the difficult easy.
“My Lord! Truly, I am in need of whatever good that You bestow on me!''
Allahumma laa sahla 'illa maal ja'altahu sahlan wa 'Anta taj'alul-hazna 'ithaa shi'ta sahlan.
Ya Allah, there is no ease other than what You make easy. If You please You ease sorrow.
Ya Allah, the Wise, the Bestower of Wisdom

My friends Dua's are defined as any invocation or prayer addressed to Almighty ALLAH Subhanahu WA Ta’aala (GOD).
Through Dua, we strengthen our faith and our relationship with Almighty ALLAH Subhanahu WA Ta’aala (GOD).
We find many reassurances throughout the Qur’an for those who make Dua.
Allah the Exalted, has said: "And your Lord says: Pray unto me: and I will hear your prayer" (Qur’an 40:60)

 Holy Prophet Muhammad (Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam), said:
“If you trust Allah with right kind of Tawakkul,
He will provide you sustenance as He provides for the birds –
They go out in the morning with empty stomachs
And come back in the evening with full stomachs.” (Hadith in Al-Tirmidhi)

Any good is from Almighty Allah Subhanahu WA Ta’aala (GOD) & the mistakes were from me.
   Please pray for me and ask Almighty Allah Subhanahu WA Ta’aala (GOD) to forgive me.
  May Almighty Allah Subhanahu WA Ta’aala (GOD) guide all of us to His Truth?
  May Allah Subhanahu wata`aalaa grant us what is best in this world and the next!
  Action speaks louder then words my friend’s practice Islam the way of the Holy Prophet Muhammad (Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) did.
  May Allah Subhanahu WA Ta’aala (GOD) help us to do that which He loves and which pleases Him?
  May Allah Subhanahu WA Ta’aala (GOD) make our efforts sincere and keep us all on the straight path...........
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             May Almighty Allah Subhanahu WA Ta’aala make it a source of Sawab-e-Jariya for YOU and me     .Ameen?
                                ..... P.S.: "Have fun praying don’t forget to make Dua for me"...

Thursday 7 February 2013

Dua (supplication) for other Muslims

Allah Miracles happen every day.

              The best greeting I can start with is the greeting of Islam, and the greeting of Islam is peace.
So, peace and mercy be upon you.
A’udhu Billaahi minash shaytánir rajeem.
Bismillah ar-Rahman ar-Rahim, Al hamdu lillaahi Rabbil 'Aalameen. Was salatu was Salamu alá Ashraf IL mursaleen.
Sayyidina WA Nabi’na wamoulanaa Muhammadin wa’ alá aalihee WA Sahbihee wasallam.         
   
Allah Miracles happen every day.
Do you not believe that miracles can happen in your life as well?
Do you think that you are too insignificant for that? Subhan’Allah.
Allah sees and knows every fallen leaf, every grain in the darkness of the earth; and He knows your innermost thoughts.
He is closer to you than your jugular vein. (Qur’an 50:16)
 Here is the big Question: How many of us make Dua for others?
           1. Dua; s for those who are alive?
           2. Dua; s for those who are dead?
In the last few weeks, I have heard several times people saying, “Please make Dua for me,”
Most of us, reply with: “InshAllah…or …o.k.”
And I believe that most of us do make dua's for our brother/sister’s.
We might include their name in our Dua's, or we might make a hurried Dua as we carry on with our busy lives.
My friends Today, I remind you that Prayer is a gift from Almighty ALLAH Subhanahu WA Ta’aala (GOD) to us.
A prayer is a gift of love.
 When ones gives a gift, He/She, Will want his/her gift to be the best possible gift He/She can give.
Dua is powerful weapon for the believer.
How many of us really make Dua for others when we are asked “make Dua for me”?
It’s a common request used by all of us especially in times of need.
First let’s make Dua for Muslims who are suffering.
        The Holy Prophet Muhammad (Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) said:
        The supplication of a Muslim for his (Muslim) brother in his absence will certainly be answered.
Every time he makes a supplication for good for his brother, the angel appointed for this particular task says: ‘Ameen! May it be for you, too’?
Muslim
   
 Please Make Dua with me for these people:
An estimated 925 million hungry people in the world,
13.1 percent or almost 1 in 7 people are hungry. People suffering from… “Poverty”, Detention, Harassment, Beatings, Discrimination, Loss of Job.
Hate Crimes .Those Constant media attention.  Under Surveillance, etc.
Those who are ill, those who Want Children, Exams, Career, Job Hunting,
Marriage Problems, Want to Get Married, Debt problems.
Let’s make Dua:-Innalhamda lillaahi, nahmaduhu WA nasta'eenuhu WA nastaghfiruhu,
WA na'oodhu Billaahi min shuroori anfusinaa WA min sayyiaati a'maalinaa.
Mainyah dihillaahu falaa mudillilahu, wa mainyudlil falaa haadiya lah.
"Alhamdulillah Indeed, all praise is due to Almighty ALLAH Subhanahu WA Ta’aala (GOD).
 We praise Him and seek His Help and forgiveness.
We seek refuge in Almighty ALLAH Subhanahu WA Ta’aala (GOD) from our souls' evils and our wrong doings.
He whom Allah guides, no one can misguide; and he whom He misguides, no one can guide."
WA ashhadu anlaa ilaha illalaahu, wahdahu laashareeka lahu,
 WA ashhadu anna Muhammadan 'abduhu wa rasooluh.
"I bear witness that there is no god except Allah- alone without any partners.
And I bear witness that Muhammad is His 'abd (servant) and Messenger."
ALLAHUMMA SALLI ALA MUHAMMADIW WA ALA AALI MUHAMMADIN  
KAMAA SALLAITA ALA IBRAHIMA WA ALA AALI IBRAHIMA INNAKA HAMIDUM MAJID.
ALLAHUMMA BAARIK ALA MUHAMMADIW WA ALA AALI MUHAMMADIN
 KAMAA BAARAKTA ALA IBRAHIMA WA ALA AALI IBRAHIMA INNAKA HAMIDUM MAJID.
"Ya Allah, send prayers upon Muhammad and the followers of Muhammad, just as
You sent prayers upon Ibrahim and upon the followers of Ibrahim.
 Verily you are full of praise and majesty.
Ya Allah, send blessings upon Muhammad and upon the family of Muhammad,
Just as You sent blessings upon Ibrahim and upon the family of Ibrahim.
Verily, You are full of praise and majesty."
In the Name of Allah,   Allah, I ask you (or I seek refuge with You) through Your Oneness,
 The Only One and through Your Sublime Majesty,
The Sublime One and through Your Honor,
 Noble One and through Your Power,
 Most Powerful One and through Your Praises,
 Most Praiseworthy One and through Your Greatness,
 The Great One and through Your Wisdom,
 The Most Wise One and through Your Truth,
 The Most Truthful One and through Your Holiness,
 The Holy One and through Your Light,
 The Light and through Your Mercy,
 Most Merciful One and through Your Forgiveness,
 The Most Forgiving One and through Your Grace,
 The Most Gracious One and through Your Bestowal,
 The Benefactor and Ya Allah, I ask of you (or I seek refuge with You),
By Your Beautiful Names and Your Magnificent/Great Attributes! Ya Allah,
 Originator of the heavens and the earth,
The ever living, the Self-subsisting
 Lord of Majesty, Bounty and Honor, Look towards us! Look towards us!
Look towards us! Through Your Mercy,
The Most Merciful of the Merciful. Ya Rab of the Worlds.
“Ya Allah, I invoke You with all of Your beautiful Names.
May Allah Subhanahu WA Ta’aala bless us and keep us steadfast in the path of Righteousness.
Ya Allah, nothing is easy except what you've made easy,
 If you wish you can make the difficult easy.
“My Lord! Truly, I am in need of whatever good that You bestow on me!''
Allahumma laa sahla 'illa maal ja'altahu sahlan wa 'Anta taj'alul-hazna 'ithaa shi'ta sahlan.
Ya Allah, there is no ease other than what You make easy. If You please You ease sorrow.
Ya Allah, the Wise, the Bestower of Wisdom
Help us to remember that we care for the most precious of all Your creation, the Innocent Children.
Ya Allah help us always to remember that we are leaving our marks on them, which Time will never erase.
Ya Allah Give us patience with those who are slow to learn, and tolerance with those who don't want to learn.
When we have to discipline our children,
Ya Allah help us to do so with firmness, and yet, with Love.
Ya Allah Keep us from using a sarcastic and biting tongue, and help us always to encourage
And never to belittle those who are doing their best, even if their best is not very good.
 Ya Allah Help us to let the children not only store things in their Memories, but create things with their minds.
And amidst all the worrying and irritation of our task,
Ya Allah help us to remember that the future of our community and our ‘Ummah is with our children.......

For those who are unemployed:
I pray to Almighty ALLAH Subhanahu WA Ta’aala (GOD) that you get the job Insh’Allah.
 I ask Almighty ALLAH Subhanahu WA Ta’aala (GOD) to provide you with a better job with a lot of blessings in it, Ameen!
Subhaan rabbika Rabbil 'izzati ‘Amma yasifoon. Wasalaamul 'alá mursaleen.
Wal hamdu lillaahi Rabbil 'Aalameen.
"Glory be to your Lord, the Lord of Might above what they describe.
And peace be upon those sent. And praise be to Allah, the Lord of the worlds." (Surah As-Saffat 37:180-182)
Subhanaka allahumma WA bihamdika, ash hadu anlaa ilaha illa anta, astaghfiruka WA atoobu ilaik.
"How perfect You are Ya Allah, and I praise You.
I bear witness that none has the right to be worshipped except You.
I seek Your forgiveness and turn to You in repentance" Ameen...
          
 My friends it is very serious if someone asks us to make du’a for them
And we agree to it or say InshAllah` we will do it.
Saying Insh’Allah doesn’t just mean maybe, we should make an effort to do it Insh’Allah.
An advice I received from my old teacher (Ustaad) one time was that if someone asks you for dua’s, You should make it right there
And then (or while walking away from them even), Do not delay! Also, ask people what they want dua’s for.
They sometimes get caught off guard for this but many times they themselves haven’t really thought about it.
This way, it makes the person asking more reflective of what he/she would really like us to make dua’s for
And it puts an onus on us not to forget.
One day The Holy Prophet Muhammad (Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam), noticed a Bedouin leaving his camel without tying it.
He asked the Bedouin, "Why don't you tie down your camel?"
The Bedouin answered, "I put my trust in Allah."
The Holy Prophet Muhammad (Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) then said,
"Tie your camel first, then put your trust in Allah" (Tirmidhi).
Turn each anxiety, each fear and each concern into a Dua (supplication).
Look at it as another reason to submit to
Almighty ALLAH Subhanahu WA Ta’aala (GOD) and be in Sajda (prostration),
During which you are closest to Almighty ALLAH Subhanahu WA Ta’aala (GOD).
Almighty ALLAH Subhanahu WA Ta’aala (GOD) listens and already knows what is in your heart,
But He wants you to ask Him for what you want.
Dua is the essence of worship (The Holy Prophet Muhammad Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) as quoted in Tirmidhi).
"Call on your Lord with humility and in private: for Allah loveth not those who trespass beyond bounds.
Do not make mischief on the earth, after it hath been set in order, but call on Him with fear.
And longing (in your hearts): for the mercy of Allah is (always) near to those who do good" (Qur’an 7:55-56).

Prayers for the Dead
Abu Hurairah reported, "The Holy Prophet Muhammad (Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) said,
'The righteous works that continue to benefit a believer after his death
Include the knowledge that he taught and spread among others, a righteous son (children) whom he leaves behind,
Or a copy of the Qur'an that he bequeaths to his inheritors or a mosque that he builds,
Or a rest house that he builds for the wayfarers or a canal of water that he digs for the benefit of others,
 Or a charity that he gives out of his property during his life while he is sound of health.
He will continue to receive reward for all these even after his death.'
Related: by Ibn Majah.
    
 When a Person Dies
The Holy Prophet Muhammad (Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) has made it very clear that when a person dies,
He can no longer do anything about his future life except in one of three ways:
     1…This is a continuous act of charity (Sadqah Jariya). Sadqah Jariya
This is a continuous act of charity (Sadqah Jariya). Sadqah Jariya: This is any good deed done from which
People continue to benefit despite the demise of the person who originated it.
i.e... the establishment of a Madrassa or Masjid from which people are rightly guided will be Sadqah Jariya for the person who established it.
Having a well dug or a shade or fruit tree planted will also accrue good deeds for a person, as long as the well or tree benefits people.
2... “knowledge which is beneficial” means knowledge imparted verbally or by any other means through which people become better Muslims.
 As long as people benefit from this knowledge, the teacher will receive reward for it.
3... Source of reward is having virtuous descendants. Training of children on the right lines
And then making Dua for them to be among the righteous is essential, So that after a person's death they continue to pray for him or her.
The prayer of righteous children in favour of parents is very useful.
Needless to say all such deeds have to be done with sincerity (Ikhlas) in seeking the pleasure of Allah (Subhaan WA Ta’aala).
Only when they are done to earn Allah’s pleasure will they be rewarded by Him.
If they are done for fame, monetary gain, or any other worldly benefit,
Then the outcome one achieves in this world is all that they will get for it. Teaching Islam to people. “And a dutiful child who prays for him
This defines the way for children to benefit their deceased parents.
They should pray for them as often as they can, Requesting Almighty ALLAH Subhanahu WA Ta’aala (GOD) to have mercy on them.
Hence, the Prophet’s Sunnah encourages us to conclude every obligatory or voluntary prayer with the supplication:
 ‘My Lord: Forgive me and my PARENTS. Bestow your mercy on them as they took care of me when I was young.
"This prayer reads in Arabic: “Rabbi -ghfir li wa liwalidayy. Rabbi -rhamhuma Kama rabbayani sagheera.”
It is strongly recommended to say this prayer just before we finish any obligatory or voluntary prayer we offer, at the end of the Tashahhud (also known as Tahiyat).
A deceased man may find his position with Almighty ALLAH Subhanahu WA Ta’aala (GOD) improving, and he asks about the reason.
He is told by Almighty ALLAH Subhanahu WA Ta’aala (GOD) that it is through his child’s prayer for him.
Needless to say, this applies to both mothers and fathers, through the prayers of both their sons and daughters.

Umar RadiAllahu anhu said, "I heard the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, say,
"If you were to rely on Allah as He should be relied on, He would provide for you as He provides for the birds.
They go out in the morning hungry and return in the evening full." [At-Tirmidhi]
Birds do not ask anyone for help or go into a state of stress anxiety or depression; they just get up and go.
 Similarly, our trust in Almighty ALLAH Subhanahu WA Ta’aala (GOD) should cause us to be optimistic,
 To get up and just do what we have to do knowing full well that:
Nothing happens against the will of Almighty ALLAH Subhanahu WA Ta’aala (GOD).
Now a Quranic Perspective:
In the Qur’an, Almighty ALLAH Subhanahu WA Ta’aala (GOD) prohibits all believers from offering prayers for the disbelievers
Or idol worshippers regardless of whether they are dead or alive:
"Neither the prophet, nor those who believe shall ask forgiveness for the idol worshippers, Even if they were their nearest of kin, once they realize that they are destined for Hell." 9:113
If they died as disbelievers or idol worshippers nothing and no prayer can change their fate:
"With regard to those who have deserved the retribution, can you save those who are already in Hell?" 39:19
This truth is known to all Qur’an readers and is not the subject of any dispute.

1. Prayers for the believers who are still alive
When we pray for a living parent, a relative or friend we usually implore Almighty ALLAH Subhanahu WA Ta’aala (GOD) 
To cure them of an illness or assist them in adversity, etc.
This kind of prayer implores Almighty ALLAH Subhanahu WA Ta’aala (GOD)’s Mercy on them while they are still alive.
This prayer is encouraged in the Qur’an and is heard by Almighty ALLAH Subhanahu WA Ta’aala (GOD)
"And lower for them the wings of humility, and kindness, and say,
"My Lord, have mercy on them, for they have raised me from infancy." 17:24

Our parents
Some have interpreted this verse so as to make it permissible to offer prayers for our loved ones whether they are dead or still alive,
However if we examine this verse, and the verse just before it,
We find good indication that Almighty ALLAH Subhanahu WA Ta’aala (GOD) is inviting us to pray for our parents while they are still alive. Let us read verse 23:
“.... you shall never say to them, "Uff" (the slightest gesture of annoyance), nor shall you shout at them; you shall treat them amicably."17:23
The words "you shall treat them amicably" can only mean while they are still alive, it is not possible to treat a dead person amicably!
After they are dead, they will get a judgment in accordance to their work on earth and in accordance to Almighty ALLAH Subhanahu WA Ta’aala (GOD) 's Mercy,
Nothing we can do can change that.
We also read that the angels offer prayers for those (living) on earth:
"The heavens above them almost shatter, out of reverence for Him, and the angels praise
And glorify their Lord, and they ask forgiveness for those on earth. Absolutely, God is the Forgiver, Most Merciful." 42:5

The Messenger of Almighty ALLAH Subhanahu WA Ta’aala (GOD) said:
“The likeness of the believers in their mutual love, mercy and affection is that of the body.
When one limb of it complains, the rest of the body reacts with sleeplessness and fever”
[Bukhari and Muslim]


 My friends Dua's are defined as any invocation or prayer addressed to Almighty ALLAH Subhanahu WA Ta’aala (GOD).
Through Dua, we strengthen our faith and our relationship with Almighty ALLAH Subhanahu WA Ta’aala (GOD).
We find many reassurances throughout the Qur’an for those who make Dua.
Allah the Exalted, has said: "And your Lord says: Pray unto me: and I will hear your prayer" (Qur’an 40:60)

 Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, said:
“If you trust Allah with right kind of Tawakkul,
He will provide you sustenance as He provides for the birds –
They go out in the morning with empty stomachs
And come back in the evening with full stomachs.” (Hadith in Al-Tirmidhi)

Hadith of Ali RadiAllahu anhu who said that the hardship that draw a man nearer to Allah is blessing,
And the hardship that takes him away from Allah is a punishment.
So don't despair at all brothers. It is the hard rains that wash away the dust.
May Allah grant you your wishes and make it good for your deen, dunya and akherah. Ameen.

The world is three days: As for yesterday it has vanished,
Along with all that was in it.
As for tomorrow, you may never see it.
 As for today, it is yours, so work in it.
- Hasan Al Basri

Almighty Allah Subhanahu WA Ta’aala (GOD) has All Knowledge.
   Any good is from Almighty Allah Subhanahu WA Ta’aala (GOD) & the mistakes were from me.
   Please pray for me and ask Almighty Allah Subhanahu WA Ta’aala (GOD) to forgive me.
  May Almighty Allah Subhanahu WA Ta’aala (GOD) guide all of us to His Truth?
  May Allah Subhanahu wata`aalaa grant us what is best in this world and the next!
  Action speaks louder then words my friend’s practice Islam the way of the Holy Prophet Muhammad (Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) did.
  May Allah Subhanahu WA Ta’aala (GOD) help us to do that which He loves and which pleases Him?
  May Allah Subhanahu WA Ta’aala (GOD) make our efforts sincere and keep us all on the straight path...........
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